Navy Wife After The Navy Life
Veteran: (noun.) A person who has served in the military
After joining the United States Navy in 2011, at the ripe ol’ age of nineteen, I had often wondered what in the heck I had gotten myself into.
I mean, as soon as my feet landed on the ground once getting off the bus to go to basic training, I was getting screamed at. Literally screamed at for breathing! Anyone who knows me well knows how sensitive and tender-hearted I am.
So, you can imagine how this went for me in the beginning of boot camp.
This is part of the reason why no one expected me to ever join any branch of the military. When I had finalized my decision to join after signing on that dotted line, I was not doing great in college, and I did not want to work at a part-time job for the rest of my life.
So, I decided to jump out of my comfort zone and do something that would better myself. I completed boot camp on August 12, 2011, and officially became a United States Sailor.
Pictured below is a picture of yours truly in my dress blues while in boot camp.
In the beginning of 2012, the ship that I was stationed on, the USS Enterprise, departed for her final deployment
It was a seven and a half month long tour with long hours and minimal amounts of sleep.
That was the first time in my life that I had ever been away from my family, so it was difficult, especially in the beginning.
But, I will say this; it was an honor to serve my country, even while being somewhat miserable on a ship, in the middle of the ocean, whilst being surrounded by the same 5,000 people all day, every day.
I remember being woken up at 0330 in the morning for a UNREP (replenishment of fuel/supplies) and I remember thinking to myself about the person who had woke me up that, “Oh, it’s you again.”
This person was the first person that I saw every single morning.
Things on deployment get kind of redundant. Then, finally, we arrived back in port at Naval Station Norfolk.
While deployed, we visited Greece, Dubai, Bahrain, and Italy. During this deployment is also where I met my future husband/baby daddy. Insert wink face here.) Pictured below is our first picture ever taken together. Anchored out in Italy.
Well, we got married and now we have two beautiful children. In 2015, as my four-year enlistment was coming to an end, my husband and I decided it would be best if I got out and furthered my education.
This is where my GI Bill comes into play.
Once becoming a Veteran, you have ten years in which you have to use your GI Bill. For me, I started immediately after separating from service. Through the GI Bill, you get thirty-six months of education benefits in which you do get paid for on a monthly basis.
Of course, the amount you get paid determines on what state your school is in, and how many classes you are taking, and whether they are all online or on campus. The GI Bill covers pretty much everything for a Veteran during their time furthering their education.
It covers tuition and fees, gives you a monthly housing allowance, as well as a book stipend. Thankfully, I have had no issues using my GI Bill, and I have already received my associate’s degree by using it. I am still attending school and I am hoping and praying to receive my bachelor’s degree within the next year or so.
This is all possible for me thanks to my GI Bill.
One thing that has always bothered me, is that people always assume that it is the man in the military.
Drives me bananas. Once I separated from the Navy, and become not only a Veteran but also a Navy wife.
Honestly, I absolutely love being a military wife and I am far from those stereotypical military wives that we have all seen on Facebook.
I think they have been referred to as “dependapotamus” and are commonly known as making others salute them for their husbands rank. Anywho, I love supporting my husband and seeing him advance in his career.
I have heard of some women being jealous that their spouses get to go to work every day, but let me tell you. I am certainly not jealous. I love my job of being a stay-at-home mom and being with my kids all day. (cough..most days.)
Also, the Navy did teach me a valuable lesson that I have taken with me. That would be patience. In the Navy, you are always waiting “patiently” for something.
Waiting for your superior to tell you what job needs to be completed next, waiting in the chow line, waiting to get off work so you can hibernate in your rack…etc, etc.
Now, I am patiently waiting for my kids to pick up their toys, I am patiently waiting for one of my children to use the potty correctly without putting a whole roll of toilet paper in the toilet, etc etc.
Honestly, If I hadn’t joined the military, my life would be nowhere near what it is today.
I am so thankful I look that leap and joined the world’s greatest Navy. Thanks to the Navy, I visited different countries, grew up along the way, met my husband and now have two beautiful children, and received the honor of serving my country and becoming a Veteran.
It was worth every sleepless night.
By Tiffany Adams, U.S. Navy Veteran
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