Service member + transition + spouse=

Service member + transition + spouse=

An ideal example of teamwork!  What?  Is this not the answer you were expecting?   I am here to show how involving your spouse in the transition process, from the beginning, will benefit you financially, strategically and emotionally.   

MyPay will stop depositing paychecks into your account for your military service when you separate from service.  While this fact is obvious to most service members some spouses struggle with this reality, myself included.  It is time for a course in personal finances, immediately!  By creating a budget, emergency savings account and consistently reviewing your progress your entire family benefits from the security.  Find a course you can take together because having financial control is one less stress you will have to deal with.  Let’s face the fact that communication can get very interesting between couples during the transition process without additional financial issues. 
Military Transition
 
You decide to separate from service.  Now what?   You can start by attending, with your spouse, a TAP class (now known as Transition GPS); or you can attend separately if you so wish.  This course will begin to explain the transition process and oh what a process it is.  I would like to emphasize that the TAP classes (Transition GPS) are not the be all and end all of transitioning.  What Transition GPS does is educate the service member and spouse about the big ticket items like healthcare and steps and stages.  Knowing the what, when, where and why of the process will help couples communicate better.  Creating a roadmap to, and through, transition together can help spouses and service members from feeling too confused and lost in the process.  Everyone can appreciate a good roadmap because even your phone’s GPS (or your shipmate) is occasionally wrong.
 
I can share from experience that the transition process has its ebbs and flows, its highs and lows and a few surprises.   You do not have to go on this mission alone.  Remember, it is not just a service member affected by deployments and PCSs.  You and your spouse can plan this journey together successfully.  Marriages, like partnerships, have their advantages.  Be advantageous!

I wish you luck on your journey.  Knowing how hard it is to ask for help I will leave you with two resources I like. 
 
  1. https://www.hireourheroes.org/ is an organization with a detailed plan for transition
  2. www.lida360.com/  a branding expert helping transitioning service members
 
Who am I?  I am only a military spouse who has been planning for the transition for 4 years.  We have 6 months left and are competing with each other for whose career to follow next.  We are tied.  How do you and your spouse support each other during the transition process?
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*Guest Blog Written for HOH by Leticia Stevens.  Interested in guest blogging? Please email us at dan@hireourheroes.org